My mom tells people im crazy?

and i need to get mental help. she says she is going to send me to live with my grandparents (right now i would rather live with them than with her) and she says this all because i want to drop back to algebra 1/2 because im failing algebra 1. i emailed my teacher asking him what he thought about it and he said it would be a good idea. when i told her she grounded me and told me i needed to go live with my grandparents and go to a psychiatrist. i dont think i need to go to a psychiatrist (to me it doesnt seem like im crazy because i want to move down in math) but i would much rather go live with my grandparents than stay with her.


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35 minutes ago


what should i do? i want her to stop telling people im crazy, do you think im crazy?


31 minutes ago


the problem with living with my grandparents is that they live in a different city and all my friends are here. i have been going to sleep away camps for the past 5 summers and alot of the girls where from where they live and live really close to him and they are really mean and rich snobs and thats how most people are that live there


30 minutes ago


i dont think the people will accept me there because im not preppy. i guess you could call me scene but for some reason they think im scary b/c i dress kinda scene.


13 minutes ago


i have a tutor.


and i have been getting bad grades. i skipped algebra 1/2 and i feel like i missed alot of stuff because everyone else understands everything but i dont. i told my mom before emailing my teacher and she said i am psycho

My mom tells people im crazy?
I can't understand the premise for being grounded just because you emailed your teacher. It seems a bit much to me. Your mother sounds verbally abusive. I can't imagine what purpose such a tight rein would serve or why she just can't drop it. Flunking out of algebra is not a premise for mental illness. If she wants so much to be rid of you, it does seem to me you would be better off anywhere than right under her foot where she can continue to badger and browbeat you.


It sounds to me like you have a hard time sitting still and focusing on the task at hand. Maybe if your mother would shut her big mouth and leave you alone, it might help but she's so full of herself she can't see how distracting her behavior is and how much it is upsetting you. My heart goes out to you. I sympathize. (Been there, done that.)


I think you have no problems other than this perpetual preoccupation with defending yourself for not measuring up to your mother's standards. You're always experiencing some anxiety about not measuring up. It puts undo pressure on you just to understand the material, much less pass a test. You're always measuring yourself according to someone else's criteria. You seem to me to be smart, clever and you seem to have a good grasp of your limitations. Good for you. Now stop dwelling on the negative. Just like your mother obsesses and argues with you (like it's going to change anything), you do the same thing. What the f*** is her problem?


This is called a kind of bondage. You seem to be enslaved to her low impression of herself and everything is someone else's fault. It's too narcissistic to serve any worthwhile purpose. It is a bad habit, nothing more. Whatever is actually going on there, there is a hidden agenda. We may never know why she continues with it. You are not the problem.


You are not inadequate. You are just you. It's about time someone realized that. They all should just accept you as you are, and if they can't do that, the h*** with them. OK? You can tell them I said so. You just be you. It's good enough for me. But don't measure your character according to how much money you have. Just relax and be yourself. That will just have to do.


Stop running to your mother to tell her about every little thing you do. You know she's going to go ballistic. You are seeking her approval, when you know just as well as I do, she's going to disapprove no matter what happens. There is something wrong there. You nor I can do anything about that. All you can do is keep your distance and not let it become another outburst. You are not a baby. You do not need to be patronized for your every living, waking, breathing moment. Stop with the disparaging comments all ready.


You have built a life full of expectations that are abusive and inappropriate. You need to get away from there. You react badly to everything she does. That's why she does it. If you could stop reacting and learn to stop pushing her buttons she would have to change. If you don't play the game anymore, it won't be any fun to continue to bad mouth you. Stop reacting and don't give her the chance to insult you. I don't care what it is. It has no goal and no worthwhile purpose other than playing this game with you. You are not her whipping boy.


Get a therapist and some antidepressants. You don't deserve that. You are not a victim. Learn to stop playing her game. Learn to stop expecting her to insult you again. You are just fine as you are. She'll just have to learn to live with that.


I hope this helps you. I would gladly do anything I can.
Reply:I dont' thnk your crazy,you're just having hard time learning algebra,tell her to help you with algebra, instead of telling you that your crazy
Reply:Go live with your grandparents a while. You will make new friends there too.
Reply:Start by making an appointment with your school guidance counselor. In most places, they are trained to help you with this kind of situation. A psychiatrist prescribes drugs, while a counselor, therapist, or psychologist tries to work with you to find new ways of solving your problems. The next time your mother calls you crazy, maybe say something like, "It hurts me when you tell people that, and I don't want to be with you now," and then walk away for an hour or two.
Reply:NO! your not crazy. thats the craziest thing ive ever heard. you not cray, but i think your mom might be a wee bit unstable. if she thinks you should be sent away and need psychological help, she is off her rocker, if you dont mind me saying. if you want to get away from her, i can understand that, so go if you need to. as for the, err.....environment, be yourself, the world does not need another prep, you will bring some style, character, and colors that arnt pink, yellow and white too the place. you'll be doing a favor. if they dont like you, tough for them, they can deal with it, but theres always someone who will exept you. they cant all be prepy.....can they? that would be scary. my worst nightmare....a bunch of happy, cheerful, snobby rich kids jumping all over the place.....scary. hey, if there like that, give them every thing they give you back. they give you sneers, give them a look of disgust, it makes them fell bad, cause there to obsessed with looking good and normal and whatnot. it will get to them. if they "accidentally bump into you", "accidentally" trip them. give em what for. they make fun of you because of the way you look, go home, analyze what they wear and how they act, and use imagination. for example: if the persons flashy and wear big sunglasses, call them Elton john, they hate anything thats not pop or from the past 3 years. this might not help you, and i wont get picked best answer, and maybe my dislike for preps and valley girls is really shining through, but whatever, be yourself, your not crazy, and whatever anyone gives you, give it back to them, show them your not joking.
Reply:You are NOT psycho or crazy... I really hate to hear about a mother talking to her child like this. Teens are in enough stressful situations without being told they are crazy and should move away. It may be best for you to change your environment. I am sorry... I never told my kids they were crazy, because I love them unconditionally and verbal abuse isn't part of love. Who cares how you dress, you are a PERSON with feelings. Tell her how it makes you feel, but do it nicely with respect. Good luck to you!
Reply:It sounds to me as if you are making the best decision for yourself. To say that you are crazy is going overboard, your mom sounds like the one who needs psych help.